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The Actualising Woman
The Actualising Woman is an empowering space for late-diagnosed autistic (ASD) + ADHD women to navigate unmasking, rebuild identity, and learn how to set healthy boundaries, and develop self-acceptance and self-advocacy, through guidance, validation and encouragement 🌱
As a counselling psychotherapist, diagnosed at 58 with AuDHD, I share a raw, honest account of my own unmasking, autistic burnout and breakdown, and the subsequent rebuilding of my identity, while planning a neurodivergent - friendly life abroad. (France or Italy, I haven't decided yet!)
I talk about how I'm attempting to find the right environment in which I can thrive and reach my full potential, and for once, after decades of highly masking (to my detriment) learn to accept myself for who I am as a congruent, neurodivergent, UNMASKED woman 🌸🌱
I am inspired by Carl Rogers' Theory of Actualisation (the king of person-centred therapy) and also his daughter Natalie Rogers; herself a therapist, who wrote a fantastic book about her journey through the later stages of her life after HER own life changing event.
This channel blends lived experience with practical advice, validation, evidence-informed insights, actionable tools, and plenty of humour 😝🌱
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Contact: clare@theactualisingwoman.co.uk for requests, stories for the show, questions or sponsorship queries.🌱
Clare Llewellyn-Bailey: Counselling Psychotherapist (MBACP, BA Hons)
The Actualising Woman
Latest Episodes
ADHD & Autism Diagnosis in Women: Finding Your Tribe After a Late Neurodivergent Diagnosis + Advocating for Your Needs
ADHD & Autism Diagnosis in Women: Finding Your Tribe After a Late Neurodivergent Diagnosis, Advocating for Your Needs. (Includes 8-12 sec. short breaks) Receiving a late diagnosis of ADHD or autism can be life-changing, confusin...
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AUDHD MASKING + UNMASKING | PROs +CONs | Late Diagnosed | Authentic + Congruence Identity
AUDHD MASKING + UNMASKING | PROs +CONs | Late Diagnosed | Authentic + Congruence Identity. My experiences so far! In this deeply personal episode on AuDHD masking and unmasking, I explore the pros and cons of camouflaging as a l...
PART 2 What is Actualisation? What does it MEAN to me? Becoming a Fully Functioning Person with AuDHD
PART 2. In this episode I'm outlining: 1. what actualisation means. 2. what it means to become a fully functioning person and 3. what does that mean for me in REAL terms? What changes do I need to make regarding self-development, w...
PART 1 What's Your Plan Clare?? What Do You Need For You to Start Becoming a Fully Functioning Person? AKA - Actualise?
PART 1. In this one, I'm talking about (well... rambling on, really) a lightbulb moment I had in May 2022, which I've never got out of my head. A long term dream. BUT, it seems that it's only now that I'm ready for it to come to fr...
How Does Congruence Help You Unmask as an ASD ADHD -er? - A Core Condition for Actualising The Ideal 'You'
How Does Congruence Help You Unmask as an ASD ADHD -er? - A Core Condition for Actualising The Ideal 'You'. I talk about how masking goes against your congruent self.. causing distress and misalignment.The Actualising Woman 🪴 is a...